Grief Counseling in South Tampa
Feel sad and hopeless?
Your life has completely turned upside down and, at times, it's hard to even breathe. You feel broken. Alone. And maybe even guilt. You may be wondering if the pain will ever go away. You deserve to feel better and find meaning in your life.
Understanding grief and loss
Grief is the personal experience of loss and it affects everyone at some point in their life. Loss is a wound and can be caused by a number of life changes:
During grief, it is normal to experience a wide range of emotions which may include sadness, anger, loneliness, ambivalence, confusion, fear, and sometimes even relief. The feelings may become overwhelming; maybe you aren't able to function or perform normal daily tasks.
How to heal from grief and loss
There is one important rule: As long as you are not harming yourself or others, everything you do, feel and think is normal!
Everyone copes with loss differently and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It's best to first focus on taking good care of yourself. You need plenty of rest, eat well, stick to a schedule, plan your days, and stay active. Seek comfort from safe supportive people. And above all, be gentle with yourself, you have experienced a deep emotional wound.
Healing can occur in stages. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross proposed the concept of the five stages of grief:
- Denial - Unable to believe the reality of the loss.
- Anger - Wanting to blame somebody (including yourself) or something, having thoughts like "this isn't fair!" and "what did I do wrong?"
- Bargaining - Hope that you can somehow avoid the cause of grief with a promise to compromise or change.
- Depression - Feeling sad, discouraged, and/or hopeless.
- Acceptance - Being able to remember with love rather than pain.
Practicing mindfulness can be helpful in dealing with the pain. Go to my mindfulness page to learn more and experience some short guided meditations.
Take the next step....
Grief and loss resources
- WebMD overview of grief and loss - additional information on grief and loss
- The Life Center - Local grief and loss support groups, for a modest donation
- Dark Nights of the Soul: A Guide to Finding Your Way Through Life's Ordeals - Book on grief and loss
- When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times - Book on grief and loss
- Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying - Book on the dying
- Self-Guided Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction - Self-guided course on learning mindfulness